How to Help
Anyone can be a victim of family violence. It occurs in all types of relationships, and it involves people of all ages, races, religions, financial status, sexual orientation and education.
There are ways you can help. And in many cases, help begins with a simple conversation. If you suspect that someone you know is a victim of family violence, try asking, “Is everything okay at home?” or “Are you safe at home?” By asking the question, it starts a conversation and lets that person know you care.
It’s important to note that while you will not be able to solve the problem, you can provide hope by serving as a caring, non-judgmental support person and connecting the victim(s) to a community resource where solutions can be found.
A child exposed to the father abusing the mother is at the strongest risk for transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next.
We know it’s not easy to start a conversation, so we developed these helpful tips when having a conversation about family violence:
- Talk in a private location, not in public
- Do not be afraid to let the person know that you are concerned for their safety; trust your instincts
- Acknowledge how difficult and scary the situation may be
- Be supportive
- Never judge
- Encourage the development of a safety plan, which can be done with the help of a crisis hotline or shelter. View a sample safety plan
- Inform the person of community resources
By simply visiting this page, you’ve taken an important first step toward providing help and hope to someone who needs you.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 911.